The reality is, any time there’s a discussion board dealing with relationships, there are going to be some people who say, “You’re beyond redemption; you deserve to be incel.” If they don’t say it directly, they’ll say it indirectly, by giving bad advice. For example, they kept saying that I might not be able to enter the Philippines. I actually had no problem. What they meant was that I shouldn’t enter the Philippines, but they couldn’t say so outright because that wouldn’t be constructive.
If they purposefully give you bad advice, or blame you for stuff when the circumstances are ambiguous or subjective, that’s just another way of saying, “I don’t like you and don’t want you to succeed.”
If you take the bad advice and it turns out badly, then they will blame you for being the reason for the failure, since allegedly others could have taken the same advice and it would’ve turned out well. Or they’ll say that the failure of the advice to produce the results you wanted actually proves them correct; e.g. if they say, “Live with your wife in the Philippines for a couple years before coming to the U.S.” and she balks, they’ll say, “See, that proves she doesn’t love you” when in reality no chick really wants to live in the grinding poverty of the Phils. So yeah, in that respect, it’s true that love isn’t the prime motivator of chicks; but it would be the same way with all chicks, since they’re opportunistic in love. AWALT.
But if you don’t take their bad advice, then they blame any failure you have on your unwillingness to take their advice.
Sometimes they’ll give advice that is going to cause you to incur a penalty — e.g. “don’t marry” means you have to stay incel, or “don’t go on an international trip with this girl while she has a domestic violence charge pending, because she might not be allowed back into the country” means you’ll miss out on the trip. They’re acting like they’re just trying to keep you safe, but they’re actually wanting to make you suffer.